The dishwasher scene from the series Forever, has stuck with me for years. I think about it almost every day.

Amazon’s surreal dark comedy is the love story of June (Maya Rudolph) and Oscar (Fred Armisen) living together in the afterlife – which looks an awful lot like a bland suburban neighborhood.

In the dishwasher scene, June remarks that Oscar always flips the silverware right-side up in the dishwasher. For as long as they’ve been together, he flips the flatware. She asks him why he didn’t just ask her to load the silverware this way. He pauses and, with some resignation, explains. He did ask her and she didn't do it. So he didn't mention it again since he knew he'd end up doing it himself anyway only then he'd be resentful and angry so he just...does it.

What matters? You could say that Oscar’s being fussy about the silly silver and should chill. You could say that June is being oblivious and should pay closer attention to what’s important to him.

Either way, this scene is not about the silverware.